Thursday, February 28, 2013

Open Letter to Men, No. 4

Dear Men,

I'm gonna take a step back from the theoretical ideas I've been giving you and offer a piece of practical advice:

Schedule a lunch date.

Several women have mentioned to me recently that they love lunch dates.  Consider the following:
  • A lunch date is cheaper than a dinner date.
    Now, nobody wants someone who values money over relationships, but everybody wants to get a good deal.  Good women don't want men to spend exorbitant amounts of money on dates, especially if it's a first date or a new relationship; it lowers expectations a bit.  It's more relaxing.
  • A lunch date has a definite beginning and a definite end.
    This is ideal for a first date or a new relationship because if you find that the two of you aren't exactly compatible, you don't have to worry that the date has an indefinite end.  Dinner dates have a tendency to go on and on and on, which is good, if you're interested in the person, and bad, if you're not.
  • A lunch date is a day date, and day dates are fun!
    It's nice to break the workday up with socializing, especially if it's with a person you like!  How often do you see people you like after the sun goes down?  Probably a lot!  How often do you see them when it's light?  Rarely enough to keep such an occurrence from being novel, that's for sure.  And novelty is exciting, and excitement leads to misattribution of emotions.  That is, thrills are associated with the people we share them with.

So men, get out there and take a lady on a lunch date!  I know she'll appreciate it!

Good luck,

*In case you missed the others, read Open Letters to Men.


Blogger Unknown said...

Well said my dear, let's hope there are a few men reading your letters :)

11:59 PM  
Blogger Gretchen Alice said...


8:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lunch dates are historically considered "friend" dates by most, which make them unappealing to most men, unless two people have been dating awhile. Just sayin' ;)


2:41 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

Hm. Historically, Barry? Really? I dunno; I'd argue with that. :)

But yeah -- I can see why you'd say that. Still, I'm telling you that women like lunch dates, so you better start using them to your advantage. Maybe if you made it clear that it was a date from the beginning, you could clear the "friend" status pretty quickly.

1:13 PM  

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